I run several VPS boxes at https://www.netcup.de/. That includes my web pages, gopher, mail, Matrix for our family, IRC server for me and a friend, a little DNS server for dynamic names, and probably something else I forgot. Those servers all run OpenBSD, but I ran Arch on them for many years, which worked very well. I originaly switched to OpenBSD as an experiment, but now I really enjoy lots of its programs/daemons and the simple config files.

My “router” at home is an Intel NUC running Arch, which does the standard stuff (DNS, DHCP, hostapd), runs WeeChat in tmux, and hosts a couple of private git repos. If I had a better (= more bandwidth, static IP, access to that IP’s rDNS records) and more stable internet connection at home, I’d move more stuff to the NUC. But this is Germany, so no.

As for the question “why do you self-host”: I like the greater degree of control and, often enough, it’s fun. I let a hoster host my blog for a while and it was just annoying. Missing feature here, broken feature there, I can hardly automate anything. Nah.