I'm going to build my own linux community, with blackjack and hookers.

Let's see how I see this `merge' idea:

UNIXPORN

• Subreddit about ricing
  
• IRC server to discuss ricing (and probably more general stuff)
  

NIXERS

• Forum about NIXy things
  
• IRC server to discuss general stuff
  

The idea behind this merge is (tell me if I'm wrong) :

"Hey ! Here at unixporn we discuss linux things and post ricing related content, you do too, just come with us, and leave your community !"

What would be the benefits of it ? You can suscribe to /r/unixporn if you're a nixers member, and you can join nixer.net if you're from /r/unixporn ! When you want to submit a screenshot, go to reddit, and to discuss the latest kernel release, to nixers.net.
To make this forum more accessible from the subreddit, you can put a link in the sidebar, that's what the sidebar is made for after all.

Another argument I heard is: "If both #nixers and #unixporn are on the same server, it will be easier for one community to get in touch with the other" Why not create the channels on freenode then ? So that it will be easier for the users of #linux to join us !
The problem here seems to be that the admins of the server will loose their full control on the IRC server. that's the only reason why this "merge" can't be. Joom will not abandon his server, as dcat. And that's totally understandable. This "privilege" or responsability is nice to have ! If I was running an IRC server for one of those two communities, I'd not want to just abandon it. Anyway, it's not THAT hard to add a server in an IRC client configuration... I bet that if you put something like this in the subreddit sidebar, both will get people :

• #unixporn @ irc.unixporn.net to discuss ricing stuff
  
• #nixers @ irc.nixers.net to discuss general topics about UNIX
  

I don't find this merge relevant in fact. Sure we are both interrested in the same subject, but the purpose of each "plateform" are totally different ! Wanna show of ? -> unixporn, wanna discuss ? -> nixers. There's no need for a merge here. It only needs to be more explicit.

I totally agree that nixers and unixporn are complementary. But why not just link them together by promoting them ? And if after that, the need to group everything under the same domain name shows up, we'll discuss it.