I also share your feeling but xmpp + otr is too hard for 'normal' people to use. Basically with tox you make them install qtox and utox and then you give them 'this string' which they add and voila, while with xmpp+otr it's a lot of work for someone who keeps asking why I won't just create a facebook account and what I have to hide. Lately I was thinking of trying out profanity with the onemo plugin which is being worked on but I don't really have a simple solution for the other end.